Hey, Y’all! If you’re reading this, you probably have a SO ( significant other ) leaving for Basic Training soon! It’s such an exciting time but also a sad time. While they are still a call away, there are some things you may want to do before they leave! Here’s a list of things to do before your SO leaves for Basic Training!
- Before they leave for basic training, make sure this is something you want to do. If you love the person with all your heart then you’re good to go! However, if you feel like your SO is not worth waiting for, then you should probably break things off before they leave. Nothing is worse than getting a ‘ Dear John’ letter. One thing people would always tell me is, ” Your relationship is too new, you guys are doomed, you aren’t going to make it through boot camp.” If anybody tells you that you just need to walk away! Other people do NOT know about your relationship and the amount of love you have for each other. Only you two know in your hearts if you are in it for the long run.
- Celebrate while you can! My boyfriend and I had our birthdays while he was away at boot camp and even though we did our own mini celebrations before he left, it was still so so tough. However, knowing I got to do a little for him made it a little more bearable. Some ideas might be going out at your favorite place to eat, revisit either your first date location or the place you guys met! If you guys prefer staying at home, then just put on your favorite show/movie and enjoy each others company!
- Spend as much time as possible with them before they leave! I have heard things from other girls who felt like they were ‘selfish’ for wanting to spend every minute with their SO and when their soldier was gone, they regretted not being with them more. I was so worried that people would think I was trying to be selfish, but once I told him how I felt, he immediately calmed me down so much. Something I feel that us girls do all too well is overthinking and assuming. So when you start to have any concerns, make sure to voice them to him and talk it out! You will feel a MILLION times better!! Your SO will appreciate your honesty. Seeing how all you will have is communication, and not very much of it, it is the key to maintaining a healthy relationship!
- Sit down and talk to them. Okay, this one is the most important. Before he leaves, you guys need to sit down and voice any questions or concerns you have. A lot of soldiers who go into the Army who are in a relationship will get a lot of backlash for it but so will the other who is left at home. People will try to fill your head with lies, such as, ” How do you know they will remain faithful?” “You’re gonna get a Dear John letter.” This is something that my boyfriend was concerned about. He had experiences with a girl before me that was not faithful to him. So once people started filling his head, he was concerned that I would do the same. I cannot stress enough how important it is to get every thought out so that the other person can help. As soon as we voiced our concerns to each other, we were able to reassure the other person and felt so much better! Like I said in the last point, communication is what is going to either break or make your relationship!
I hope those four tips will give you some ideas on things to do before your SO leaves! If you guys ever have any questions or suggestions, feel free to send me a message or comment below!! I’ll see you guys next week!
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